Why Has My Wife Cheated
Men are being lied to.
The reason why a married woman cheats is because she is a self centered person. She is also double standard.
As a personal example from my life, one wife who cheated said "As long as my husband continues to pay the mortgage then thats all he needs to worry about. He doesn't need to worry about what I do." However, she still demands her husband remain faithful.
In another personal example, a wife cheated for several months but was caught. The husband threw her out of the house but would not divorce her. The husband's friends yelled at him "your wife is a selfish jerk" & wanted to know why he was still married to her. However, this woman continuously told her husband she was sorry and she loved him. She also still expected him to remain faithful. After 3 weeks, the husband accepted her apology. Eleven months later she was caught fooling around again & the process repeated itself.
Another wife cheated with her husband's best friend. The husband's relatives had always viewed her as self centered. However, the husband kept disagreeing, saying "Not my wife" - until he caught her with his friend. During the divorce one relative asked him "Why did you make us put up with that selfish bitch for so long?"
Another wife cheated simply because a man hit on her. She strongly resented doing anything for her husband and was self centered. An extended family member - wondering why the husband was still with her - stated "She must be the best thing in town (in bed) because there simply is nothing else to like about her. Certainly not her personality." She still demands faithfulness from her husband.
These wives all had the same personality traits of selfishness and hypocrisy. All were only happy when the marriage was focused on themselves. They all resented having to help their husband with anything which was not interesting. They all believed that while they play around, their husbands must remain faithful.
And from the Internet, the stories are the same:
A married woman posted that husbands should be understanding and forgiving when they are cheated on. She said she had cheated on her husband because the marriage was no fun but after going on a family trip and laughing together she decided to wean herself off her boyfriend. This was taking many months. She said husbands should not expect it to happen overnight. In the meantime she still expects her husband to remain faithful.
An Army wife stated she cheated many times while her husband was deployed but he recently found out about 2 of the affairs - there were others. She said he wants nothing more to do with her. This military spouse now wants advice on how she can convince her husband to stay married. She justified her affairs by saying that she felt lonely & it felt good to be in the arms of men who wanted her, wined and dined her and relieved her frustration. However, she still demands her husband be faithful. He cannot relieve his frustration with other women. The Army wife believed cheating was only her prerogative not her husband's.
Another married woman typed she cheated many times with several different boyfriends. However, her husband found out about one of the boyfriends but she convinced him the affair was his fault. Additionally, she demanded he remain faithful.
A husband posted "I found out my wife was having an affair" after 1.5 years of marriage. He said they went to marriage counseling for 6 months & he thought she was being sincere. However, unknown to him, she began screwing around again. Over the next decade she had at least 7 different boyfriends. Eventually he caught her fooling around and subsequently found out about her other boyfriends. He now states "If your wife is screwing around then you have spent those agonizing nights wondering where she is, only to hear some bullshit excuse that you want to believe despite overwhelming evidence against it. Grow a backbone and call a lawyer.." "Your marriage is a sham and you need to deal with it or you will die a little every day."
Another husband posted that he caught his wife with her boyfriend but tried to work it out for the sake of the kids. They went to counseling. Later, he found out she was playing around with a new boyfriend. After he divorced her, he discovered she had cheated many times with multiple boyfriends during the marriage. He now states if you catch your wife cheating "more than likely she's done it before." He recommends getting rid of her otherwise "she will only drag you down further and further".
Being self centered and double standard are common personality traits of an unfaithful wife. This type of wife believes her marriage should be mostly about what she wants rather than an equal partnership with her husband. She becomes resentful if she has to help her husband, or if a problem in life arises, or if the marriage is not centered around herself. These things are not considered fun. She then becomes unhappy & cheats. However, she still demands faithfulness from her husband.
Cheating is the scourge of society. It hurts people. A cheating wife IS the same as a cheating husband. But the female chauvinist media & researchers don't see it that way. Instead, they promote feminist double standard.
Fortunately she was your gf INSTEAD OF YOUR WIFE. You can kick her to the curb and there is nothing the law can do about it. If she was your wife, the feminist Family Court Sytem would have screwed you over.
Also, maybe you could contact a men's rights lawyer. I know I came across some on the Internet. Maybe thy could give some basic advice.
I never thought my wife of 12 years would cheat on me with another man, her sister's ex-boyfriend of all people, and the father to her niece and nephew. We have beautiful children, had a wonderful home, and I have always put my family and her first above everything I ever did, only to find out because of a petty argument over bills and stupid stuff really, she went out and instantly did whatever with him within 15 minutes of meeting him because she was upset.
Being self centered, a double standard selfish woman, and I might add remorseless are very common traits I found out over the years with woman who cheat. I recently found out that shat really doesn't care at all, doesn't think about the pain, hurt, or damage it has done to our family and kids, its almost like she knew what would happen consequence wise - and did it anyway just to see what happened. She acts like Oh-well...and you go deal with it in so many words.
So like most loyal men to their family and children, I hung around for the kids sake, but there isn't a day that didn't go by I happen to notice how selfish she was, it was all about her and what her happy, otherwise she never paid attention to anything else or me as the husband. Only now that I filed to leave her, does she say she is sorry, but I feel that she is only sorry because she got caught or who is going to provide her a life now.
Selfish and double standard is an understatement...I have always said if I went and did what she did, there would be hell to pay, as its okay for her to explain away, but me it strictly forbidden.
i cant stand them sluts,dirty filth
Spoken like a feminist. My guess is your from the National Organization of Women or maybe the Women's Law Center. Either way, your mentality is definitely feminist. Feminist always claim 'cheating on a husband is good but cheating on a wife is bad'. This is exactly why so many men are abandoning the idea of becoming husbands Many younger men today realize getting married is simply stupid because of feminist like you.
Advocating the abuse and exploitation of men - its what being a feminist is all about. It is why feminism is the enemy of men.
U simply repeated feminist propaganda. When a wife cheats its the husband's fault?? NO IT ISNT. When a wife cheats its her fault. Reread above post. Every wife is a grown adult woman. She is completely responsible for her actions.
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